You know how they say “When it rains it pours” ? Well, I never really knew what they meant by that until now..
In the past 2 weeks my life has been nothing but one change after another. Two weeks ago I went through a very devastating breakup only to be followed up by being let go from a job that I loved only a few days later … yup life poured down on me HARD.
Now this isn’t a pity party — I want to be clear — I am going to be okay — I know this in my heart. But I did feel that I had a certain responsibility to be honest and not put up a front pretending that everything is “HAPPPPPYYYYY” because honestly it’s not — I’m going through a scary, overwhelming difficult time…
Luckily one thing keeping me sane is that I am a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason and when freak incidents happen (like this) it’s only because the universe has a bigger plan.
…I’m in NYC right now, following no particular path…just walking, talking and putting myself in whatever situation is randomly presented…
I am now on a path to re-gain my happiness… Only looking forward and not looking back and I will share with you some of the internal insights that I learn along the way…
To those of you who have reached out the past couple weeks, thank you.
Any advise or words of wisdom are welcome in the comments section below or feel free to privately msg me.
15 comments on “VIDEO: My whole life has been turned upside down.”
Hey there, just watched the video and wanted to say I hope things have gotten better for you ! It just takes time so I know things will work out 😉 you seem like a bright person and kind hearted and caring (from what I can tell) lol… But keep your head up and know that everything will eventually work out for you !!
It’s the toughest thing to go through. I was in the exact same boat 1 year ago. In a relationship with someone for 4 years and for no reason other than we were in different places in our lives we broke up. One month later, lost my job due to downsizing. I never thought my life would bounce back but, it did. I found love again with an amazing man. Someone who was around the entire time and after working a part-time job for a while continuing to search for a career that would get me back on track with my goals. It happened got my dream job 1 year later and couldn’t be happier. It takes time but it all works itself out in the end.
When tough times come about, I think about a quote by Friedrich Nietzsche…
“They have drawn back, only in order to have room to leap.”
Just remember that doing things others have done will take you places they’ve already been… walking your own path will take you places you can only dream of.
All the best to you, Rachel. I can say it will pass. One day at a time as cliché as that is, is pretty much the way to handle things. You were the only reason I watched Rogers. I likely won’t watch anything there any more. You are a great broadcaster and its their stupidity and loss.
You speak with heartache, but your brain has the wisdom to make you feel better. Be optimistic everyday and conquer the holes left in your heart.
When I had Rogers, I looked forward to watching you on YWTW, and although I no longer have Rogers, I’m still sad to see you go.
I think the world changes constantly and makes people like us (the ones who understand change) stronger, and wise.
You need to isolate these two unfortunate events in your life from each other. Relating them will only put you down. These were two separate incidents, so treat them as such.
I’m young, I’ve never truly been in love, so I’m not positioned to talk about your relationship. However i know enough about jobs to tell you that losing a job that you were great at, is a very good thing. Especially when your departure wasn’t because of wrongdoing.
You now have tremendous opportunities in front of you. You should go back to Toronto and carve your own path in the field you were in. Approach Bell, tell them how much Rogers customers liked the show, and that they should give it a shot. Just do everything you can until you realize how beneficial this bump in the road was for you.
I hope you have a great next couple of months. This is the first long paragraph I’ve ever written online. You’re well worth the time.
Rachel, your message left me reeling. I had no clue that all this was going on. Why did you and Wade break up? I’m so sorry, you two were a beautiful couple and I thought it was leading to marriage. Keep your head held high- you WILL get through this mess! I’ll keep you in my prayers.
You mentioned it. Everything happens for a reason, so you have to believe this is all for a bigger picture.
Remember, tough times don’t last. Tough people do. And based on all your posts and personality, this is just a slight speed bump! You’ll be back to normal in no time!
Sending you my love to wrap around that big heart of yours. The next year will propel you professionally and personally. Comfortable is the scariest place for a talented woman like you. Enjoy NY- be inspired and relentless.
You taught a hip hop class at BCIT which I attended. I’ve been following your career on Facebook.
In the video you mentioned you were 25 and what you have accomplished at your age is impressive. From the time you showed up in Toronto trying to make a go of it to now. That is in part to you constantly moving forward and rising to the challenges that came your way. There is no doubt you will overcome this and grow that much stronger for it.
You’re right…life does throw you shitty curveballs. I had one thrown at me in my career and I remember going to church on a random sunday to support my husband (not pushing a religious agenda in any way) and the priest said that it is not for us to question God’s will. That really struck me because the anger and sadness just melted away after that because I interpreted what will be will be. I then found the job that fit me the best, better than the job I had lost. I learned then that sometimes you have to lose a little (or alot) to make space for better opportunities.
So yeah…it sucks in the moment and it hard to remember that in the thick of things and it’s okay to want to lay in bed once in awhile and have a good ugly cry. But you’re doing it right by leaning on friends and family and cultivating these relationships and focusing on moving forward.
You got this! All the best!
And don’t worry a white cloud will stop by soon
Not to sound like everyone else but I can really understand what you are going through. My first boyfriend broke up with me last February, my Grandma passed last November, and my best friend deserted me in January. I had to quit my job (wedding planner assistant) in July and am now really depressed. I live in a town that doesn’t have any future for me and without the proper funds I cannot leave. And the other bad part is that I don’t have any friends that live near me. My breakup caused me to gain 40 pounds and I honestly am having a hard time picking myself up. Thank you for sharing your story, I will see your confidence and hopefully it will inspire me.
So sorry to hear about all the turmoil in your life right now. It’s alright to be sad and afraid for a while. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t.
You are a smart, strong and talented women who has already landed on her feet. You have an amazing attitude towards everything that has happened and I think you are incredibly brave to put yourself out there the way you have. I have no doubt that you will be an ispiration to others in a similar situation.
One thing I realized as I grew up was that everone is just making all this shit up as we go along. The key is to make up somethig that works for you. When it stops working then make up something new and give that a try. We are all just limited by our imagination and our desire to make it real.
I have no doubt, with your incredibly positive outlook and energy that the few tentative steps forward that you’ve take will grow into a confident walk into and exciting new future for you. Before long you will be running head long into a wonderful new adventure and I look forward to seeing where it takes you .
Thank you for sharing your journey with us . Best of luck Rachel!
First off I want to say how sorry I am for what you having been through lately. The good thing is that you are a smart, beautiful,talented woman and the sky is the limit for you. I am sure you will find what you’re looking for and excell at it. Always remember God never gives us more than we can handle even though some times it seems like it. Keep your head up and I wish you the best of luck.
Much Love, Becki
You have already made great progress , by understanding that the most important thing to do right now is look forward and not back.
Do not let anything insignificant get in your way – green card – who cares??? Get in front of everyone you can and dazzle them as only you can. All the red tape will be handled…
What made all the famous people you met successful? Unfazed belief in self. Keep doing all you can to get yours back,,,,
With everything you have accomplished at 25, you can capitalize on that experience to go to greater heights. If you truly believe everything happens for a reason (and you should) your time is NOW for your next big thing. Keep moving forward and let the plan unfold.
…be fearless… only you can stop you.
Hey, I hope everything is going ok now for you. Keep your head up! You are going to move on to bigger and better things! It sucks right now but you just need to stay strong and push forward. Good luck and all the best!